The Father of My Country

By Diane Wakoski b. 1937 Diane Wakoski
All fathers in Western civilization must have   
a military origin. The
ruler,
governor,
yes,
he is
was the
general at one time or other.
And George Washington
won the hearts
of his country—the rough military man   
with awkward
sincere
drawing-room manners.

My father;
have you ever heard me speak of him? I seldom
do. But I had a father,
and he had military origins—or my origins from
him
are military,
militant. That is, I remember him only in uniform. But of the navy,
30 years a chief petty officer,
always away from home.

It is rough/hard for me to speak   
now.
I'm not used to talking
about him.
Not used to naming his objects/   
objects
that never surrounded me.

A woodpecker with fresh bloody crest   
knocks
at my mouth. Father, for the first
time I say
your name. Name rolled in thick Polish parchment scrolls,   
name of Roman candle drippings when I sit at my table   
alone, each night,
name of naval uniforms and name of
telegrams, name of
coming home from your aircraft carrier,
name of shiny shoes.
name of Hawaiian dolls, name
of mess spoons, name of greasy machinery, and name of   
stencilled names.
Is it your blood I carry in a test tube,
my arm,
to let fall, crack, and spill on the sidewalk
in front of the men
I know,
I love,
I know, and
want? So you left my house when I was under two.   
being replaced by other machinery (my sister), and   
I didn’t believe you left me.
                   This scene: the trunk yielding treasures of   
                   a green fountain pen, heart shaped mirror,   
                   amber beads, old letters with brown ink, and   
                   the gopher snake stretched across the palm tree
                   in the front yard with woody trunk like monkey skins,   
                   and a sunset through the skinny persimmon trees. You   
                   came walking, not even a telegram or post card from   
                   Tahiti. Love, love, through my heart like ink in   
                   the thickest nibbed pen, black and flowing into words   
                   You came, to me, and I at least six. Six doilies   
                   of lace, six battleship cannon, six old beerbottles,   
                   six thick steaks, six love letters, six clocks   
                   running backwards, six watermelons, and six baby   
                   teeth, a six cornered hat on six men's heads, six   
                   lovers at once or one lover at sixes and sevens;
                   how I confuse   
                   all this with my   
                   dream
                   walking the tightrope bridge
                   with gold knots   
                   over
                   the mouth of an anemone/tissue spiral lips
                   and holding on so that the ropes burned
                   as if my wrists had been tied

If George Washington
had not
been the Father
of my Country
it is doubtful that I would ever have
found
a father. Father in my mouth, on my lips, in my
tongue, out of all my womanly fire,
Father I have left in my steel filing cabinet as a name on my birth   
certificate, Father I have left in the teeth pulled out at   
dentists’ offices and thrown into their garbage cans,
Father living in my wide cheekbones and short feet,
Father in my Polish tantrums and my American speech, Father, not a
holy name, not a name I cherish but the name I bear, the name   
that makes me one of a kind in any phone book because   
you changed it, and nobody
but us
has it,
Father who makes me dream in the dead of night of the falling cherry
blossoms, Father who makes me know all men will leave me   
if I love them,
Father who made me a maverick,
a writer,
a namer,
name/father, sun/father, moon/father, bloody mars/father,
other children said, “My father is a doctor,”
or
“My father gave me this camera,”
or
“My father took me to
the movies,”
or
“My father and I went swimming,”
but
my father is coming in a letter
once a month
for a while,
and my father
sometimes came in a telegram
but
mostly
my father came to me
in sleep, my father because I dreamed in one night that I dug   
through the ash heap in back of the pepper tree and found a diamond
shaped like a dog, and my father called the dog and it came leaping
over to him and he walked away out of the yard down the road with
the dog jumping and yipping at his heels,

my father was not in the telephone book
in my city;
my father was not sleeping with my mother
at home;
my father did not care if I studied the
piano;
my father did not care what
I did;
and I thought my father was handsome and I loved him and I wondered
why
he left me alone so much,
so many years
in fact, but
my father made me what I am,
a lonely woman,
without a purpose, just as I was
a lonely child
without any father. I walked with words, words, and names,   
names. Father was not
one of my words.
Father was not
one of my names. But now I say, “George, you have become my father,
in his 20th century naval uniform. George Washington, I need your
love; George, I want to call you Father, Father, my Father,”   
Father of my country,
that is,
me. And I say the name to chant it. To sing it. To lace it around   
me like weaving cloth. Like a happy child on that shining afternoon
in the palmtree sunset with her mother’s trunk yielding treasures,   
I cry and
cry,
Father,   
Father,   
Father,
have you really come home?

Diane Wakoski, “The Father of My Country” from Emerald Ice: Selected Poems 1962-1987. Copyright © 1988 by Diane Wakoski. Reprinted with the permission of David R. Godine/Black Sparrow Press, www.blacksparrowbooks.com/titles/wakoski.htm.

Source: Emerald Ice: Selected Poems 1962-1987 (1988)

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Diane Wakoski, described as an "important and moving poet" by Paul Zweig in the New York Times Book Review, is frequently named among the foremost contemporary American poets by virtue of her experiential vision and her unique voice. Wakoski's poems focus on intensely personal experiences—on her unhappy childhood, on the painful relationships she has had with men and, perhaps most frequently, on the subject of being Diane . . .

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