If Ever There Was One

By Miller Williams 1930–2015 Miller Williams
She could tell he loved her. He wanted her there   
sitting in the front pew when he preached.   
He liked to watch her putting up her hair
and ate whatever she cooked and never broached

the subject of the years before they met.   
He was thoughtful always. He let her say   
whether or not they did anything in bed
and tried to learn the games she tried to play.

She could tell how deep his feeling ran.
He liked to say her name and bought her stuff   
for no good reason. He was a gentle man.   
How few there are she knew well enough.

He sometimes reached to flick away a speck   
of something on her clothes and didn’t drum   
his fingers on the table when she spoke.
What would he do if he knew she had a dream

sometimes, slipping out of her nightgown—
if ever God forbid he really knew her—
to slip once out of the house and across town   
and find someone to talk dirty to her.

Miller Williams, “If Ever There Was One” from The Ways We Touch. Copyright © 1997 by Miller Williams. Reprinted with the permission of University of Illinois Press.

Source: The Ways We Touch (University of Illinois Press, 1997)

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Poet Miller Williams 1930–2015

POET’S REGION U.S., Southern

Subjects Marriage & Companionship, Relationships, Living, Love, Men & Women, Realistic & Complicated

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Poet, editor, critic, and translator Miller Williams was born in Hoxie, Arkansas in 1930, the son of a Methodist clergyman and civil rights activist. Miller’s work is known for its gritty realism as much as for its musicality. Equally comfortable in formal and free verse, Williams wrote poems grounded in the material of American life, frequently using dialogue and dramatic monologue to capture the pitch and tone of American . . .

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SUBJECT Marriage & Companionship, Relationships, Living, Love, Men & Women, Realistic & Complicated

POET’S REGION U.S., Southern

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